Is it too soon?

I’m in the process of doing something I never thought I’d do.  Letting one of my children move out before they reach 18.

My oldest is 16.  He’ll be 17 in 4 months.  He came to me a few weeks ago and informed me he wanted to be emancipated.  Partially because he’s dealing with normal teenage issues, partially because he can’t get along with his siblings, partially because he feels he’s grown.

Now, he could emancipate himself, but I don’t want him to do that.  If he did that and couldn’t make it, there are a lot less options when he’s an adult for us to help him out.  Emancipation basically makes him just that, an adult before his time.  No way.

So, we came to an agreement.  He’s moving in with family, as a ‘renter’.  He’s still under his father’s and my guardianship, but will live in another place.  Stipulations are in place.  He must continue school and keep his grades up.  He must continue working and keep his bills paid (phone, gas in car, car insurance, etc).  We (his father and I) will help with food and he will do chores to help cover utilities.  He will be required to pay a small rent amount, so as to start getting the feel of paying bills.

His plan is to be on his own by graduation.  We will see.  A lot of this he came up with on his own.  And that is the main reason we are agreeing to this.  He calmly explained his plan.  How he would take care of bills.  How he will make a budget and stick to it.  And how he will continue to excel in school and his bowling.

It’s still going to be a big adjustment and I’m still going to wonder if we did the right thing.  He’s bound and determined to prove to us he can do this, so why not let him try?  At least, with him not being emancipated, he can still remain a ‘kid’ while trying to be an ‘adult’.

Happy Birthday?!

I’m a year older today.  I don’t feel older, but I do.  If that makes any sense, you’ll understand today for me.

I’m getting older.  My kids are getting older.  Life is going too fast.  Plain and simple.

I don’t want to get older.  Getting older is still scary to me, in a way.

See, I don’t remember any of my grandparents or great grandparents living past 75.  I’m halfway there.  That scares me.  I want to be around for a long time for my kids.  I want to see them have kids.  I want to see their kids have kids.  And, from family history, that may not happen.

I’m a great pretender, but I worry like you wouldn’t believe.  I always have.  I second guess, over-analyze and over think almost everything.  Just ask my husband.

On to it.  I’m 38 today.  I don’t feel it, except when I first get up in the morning.  Then, I’m stiff.  I know I’m getting old, but refuse to grow up.

I didn’t do anything special.  Adam is out of town on work.  The kids had their normal activities today.  I did my normal things.  I guess that’s part of why I spent too much time worrying.  Make sure to do something for yourself on your birthday so you don’t end up like me!

Homemade Enchilada Sauce

If you’re like me, you’ve never thought about making enchilada sauce from scratch.  Until now.  It’s easy.  Extremely easy!

I took on the task of making homemade poblano cream sauce for my chicken enchiladas the other day, so I figured I’d make homemade enchilada sauce for them as well.  Here’s the breakdown:

Homemade Red Enchilada Sauce

– 3 cloves fresh garlic, minced or pushed through a press (you could cheat and use the jarred minced garlic, about 2 tbsp)
– 4 tablespoons finely diced onion
– 1/4 cup canola or vegetable oil
– 4 tablespoons flour
– 3 tablespoons chili powder
– 1 tsp oregano
– 1 15-ounce can tomato sauce
– 1 1/2 cups water or chicken broth
– 1 teaspoon cumin
– salt to taste (about 1/2 teaspoon)
– cayenne pepper to taste (if desired)

Heat about 1 tablespoon of the oil in a medium sauce pan over medium heat. Sautee onions until translucent. Add the rest of the oil, garlic, flour, oregano and chili powder. Stir constantly and cook for a couple minutes over medium heat. Add tomato sauce, water, cumin. Simmer over medium-low heat for about 10 minutes. Season with salt and cayenne pepper (if using).


Questions

Hi everyone.  I’ve got a few questions that I hope you will all answer in the comments to this post.

First of all, I’ve been asked to do a product review on my blog.  Would you be interested in seeing more of these in the future?  If so, I’ll be marketing myself to other companies for opportunities to do just this.  The review I will be doing is in the next couple weeks, so look for the post soon.

Second, I’ve been posting various recipes I feel should be shared.  What types of recipes would you like to see in the future?  I definitely want to make my blog worth reading for all of you.  So, your input is greatly appreciated on this.

Third, what (if anything) else would you like to see me write (or not write) about?  There have been a few posts about my family.  Posts about products I own.  Posts about me and my issues.  But, what do you really want to read about?

Let me know.  I’m doing this not just for myself, but for you also.

Thanks so much!

My thoughts on the Samsung Galaxy S III

So, I’ve had some time to play with my S III.  I seriously love this phone.

The specs are great, especially compared to the phone I had before.  These are the specs that mattered the most to me:

1.5Ghz Dual Core Processor
8MP rear camera with flash
16GB onboard memory (huge deal with me)
4GLTE!!!!!!!!

I do a lot with my phone.  I use Springpad for my notes and recipes.  I play and stream digital music via Pandora and Spotify.  I play games like Cut the Rope, Angry Birds, Words with Friends, etc.  Other apps that I use regularly are Instagram, Facebook, email apps, Sparkpeople…and more.  And I take tons of pictures.  I mean tons of pictures!  It’s a good thing I can upgrade my SD card to 64GB!  I may need it!

I love that I’ve replaced my camera, for the most part, with my phone.  No need to carry both with me at all times.  I still use my camera for those very, very important staged photographs.  But my phone is always with me for those candid, got to have them shots.

The web loads so much faster with my S III than with my old phone.  4G does make a big difference!

If you’re looking for a phone that can do it all, look no further.  IMO, this phone is ideal in this day and age. I  truely believe Samsung is right on target with what we’re looking for in phones and this one is a plus to anyone who decides to go with it.

This post is my thoughts and views on this product. I will receive compensation in the form of Belief Points from USCC. I am a USCC Customer Crew Member and a proud USCC Customer!

No Name Pasta

Dinner tonight.  I’m sure there’s some recipe out there with a name that fits these ingredients, but I threw it together on a whim.  So, I didn’t bother looking.  Hence, no name pasta.

1 lb ground beef, browned and drained
1 Knoor Homestyle Stock packet (cup, container), beef
2 C hot water
2 C uncooked egg noodles
1 8oz can tomato sauce
1 Tbsp Garlic Salt (we like garlic)
1 Tbsp Onion powder (I was out of onion, so I cheated)
1 tsp Cumin
1 tsp White Pepper
1 tsp Dry Oregano (remember to rub it between fingers to release the flavor)
1/4 C Red Wine
1/2 C Cream Cheese

Cook noodles in salted water to al dente, about 8 minutes, and drain.  While noodles are cooking, in large skillet, add water and Homestyle Stock to ground beef.  Stir together over medium heat.  Add tomato sauce and all other seasonings.  Incorporate and simmer for 10 minutes.  Add cream cheese and noodles to skillet. Stir until all is incorporated.  Simmer another 15 minutes.  Serve with crusty bread or rolls.

Unsolicited Advice

I’m a bit irritated tonight, so this post is definitely out of the norm.  

See, I have a problem when people get the chance to better their life and provide better for their families, yet get pushed to throw it all away.  Not only that, when extended family encourages them to throw in the towel without even giving it a chance.
My dad taught me that you can do anything you put your mind to and I fully believe that.  It may take work.  Hell, more often than not, it takes a hell of a lot of work.  But, it’s worth it.  
To better yourself.  To better your life.  To better the lives of your family.  Your children.  Why the hell wouldn’t you do anything in your power to do that?  
Yet, I’m watching just the opposite happen with a family I care deeply about. 
Why?
 Insecurity.  
Immaturity.
If my husband told me he could make twice what he does now but it would require we move to another state.  That we would have a place to stay when we got there.  That it would improve our lives.  You’re goddamn right I’d pack my family up and go.  Why?  My family is my life.  They are important to me and providing as much as humanly possible for them is MY RESPONSIBILITY!  I sure as hell wouldn’t fight tooth and nail to stay where we barely scraped by or had to live with family to survive.
I watched my sister move, away from our mother, to another state.  I watched her get a job in no time, better than she had.  Get a home.  Work hard.  And, now she’s got a house to call her own.  Why?  She made a conscious decision to better her life and the lives of her kids.  
That being said…..To those who know this is for them
Your life will be no better than the plans you make and the action you take. You are the architect and builder of your own life, fortune, destiny.
Alfred A. Montapert