Absolutely Awesome Weekend!

So, Adam got back early Friday.  We got some time before the kids got home, on an early out, from school.  After dinner, we shipped the kids to their respective friends for the night and got more us time!

We met up with some good friends.  A couple that helped us plan and prepare for our wedding, that has been just as busy as us since.  Drinks, food and good friends.  It was great.

Home again.  Lots of us time.  No details for you!

We went to open houses on Sunday.  Found one we really, really like.  Waiting on the banker to let us know if it’s an option.  I hope and pray they say yes!!!!!!!!!!!!

And, Adam is out of town again this week.  Probably another two weeks.  But, that’s ok.  We did some talking.  I did some soul searching.  We are stronger now than before.  We really needed this!!!!!!

Pictures my daughter took:

I love him more and more every day!  
Our next tattoo.  Yes, OUR!  He designed it to be on our ring fingers because he cannot wear his wedding band anymore, due to a broken knuckle and job restrictions.

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Still Learning

I’m 37 years old and I’m still learning.

Still learning to let go of the past.

Still learning to communicate effectively.

Still learning to trust completely.

Something has recently happened that made me question myself, my relationship and my husband.  He started talking to the first girl he dated.  She found him via the friend who introduced me to him.  I was very apprehensive, to say the least, about them talking.  So, he told me he wouldn’t, but he did.  Behind my back.  It hurt when I found out, but why did he do it.  He was curious about how her life turned out.  She made some horribly bad choices that ended their relationship all those years ago.  For all he knew, she could have been dead.  So, curiosity started the conversations. She was curious about how he was, too.

What did they talk about?  Me, the kids, our life.  She told him about what all has happened to her.  But, through everything, he kept bringing us up.  How do I know?  She told me when I called her and asked her why she was talking to my husband behind my back, given their past.  She told me she’s happy for him and me and my kids.  That she’s glad he’s happy where he is.

So, why was I so upset?  My past.  My history of being cheated on and treated badly made me react that way.    Had I just taken a minute to realize he really didn’t care if she was single or with someone, if she was hoping for something with him again or even if she desired that; maybe I would have looked at things differently.  Now, I am doing just that.

She made me realize I’m putting my past bad experiences on him and our relationship and I cannot do that if I want to have a healthy relationship.  I love my husband, with all my heart.  I love him more than anyone else in this world, other than my kids.  I need to quit comparing him to my past.  He’s not them.  He never will be.  He is my future.  He is my now.

Devil Cat

I felt ill this morning, so I went back to bed.  I was woke up by this falling in the living room:

These are my living room blinds.  Torn out of the hardware that holds them up by one less than innocent kitten.
Then, I see this on the floor:
My Oreos….. torn out of the package….scattered on the floor….pieces of the package scattered, as well.
The culprit found here:

Not an hour later….I hear noise in the kitchen….sounds like she’s into something again…and I find this:
Cats eat dry pasta?  Well, she does.  She’s torn it open and was eating it as I walked into the kitchen.
Now, she is here:
Hogging my blanket.
Devil Cat!

Whole Wheat Rotini with Tomato Garlic Butter Sauce

2 C whole wheat rotini, cooked until al dente
Olive Oil
½ medium onion, chopped
3 cloves garlic, chopped
½ C butter
¼ C flour
¾ C milk
2 C diced tomatoes (fresh, skinned tomatoes are better, but you can use canned)
1/3 C Italian Blend Shredded Cheese
Heat large skillet to med-high.  Add 2 TBSP butter and a drizzle of olive oil.  Once butter is melted, add onion and garlic to skillet.  Sauté for 5-6 minutes, until garlic starts to brown.  Add in the rest of the butter.  Let it melt.  Add flour and stir until incorporated.  Add milk, a little at a time, until all is incorporated.  Turn heat down to med-low.  Add tomatoes and rotini.  Stir to incorporate everything together.  Let simmer until thoroughly heated.  Sprinkle cheese over top and serve.